Do You Support Your Man or DO YOU SUPPORT YOUR MAN?

I know that this is a controversial topic, let me start by saying this blog is in no way meant to attack anyone in fact it's only purpose is to give you somethings to think about ladies. I'm sincere about my quest to help women become fully aware of our value, It's very important for us all to know just how much we're worth. It doesn't matter who we are in this season of our lives or what temporary state we may find ourselves in; we can always push RESTART! Will it always be easy-NO, but will it always be worth it YES!

This blog is dedicated to my sisters who've moved men into their homes and are not receiving any financial help,(remember this is coming from a heart of love not judgment.)Even if you are able to handle your finances on your own, ask yourself...why is he here? What's causing me to put up with this? What can I do about this? More than likely one of your answers-the #1 answer would be because you don't want to be alone, and that's understandable but not acceptable. When we're in this kind of predicament little do we know we're already alone! AS women we need a dinner date that we don't always have to pay for ourselves, or a just because trinket here and there that hasn't been charged to our account. If you're with a man that's comfortable with this set up he's not considered to be a REAL MAN. A real man by nature wants to protect and provide for his family, there's no valid excuse for us to be in a relationship with a grown man who does not want to support himself. Is this really what you want? Is this what you deserve? Of course not! I don't care what you look like or what you may think you look like(by the way we're our worse critics)there's a man somewhere out there just for you willing to treat you like he wants you and loves you for you are not what you can do for him! But if you don't believe this you will never meet him. The longer you have this replica of a man taking up valuable space and time you're not able to get the real thing. I understand that his presence helps you to not feel so alone, you have SOME BODY to come home to even if he's not what you truly desire but is that fair to you? Why settle for this? You know deep in your heart that you're the one who provides food and shelter for him and that's basically why he's with you.(If this isn't the case for you than it shouldn't bother you.) He's even said this to you during a heated argument but you've talked yourself out of believing it. How much longer will you allow yourself to be in this situation, notice I said "will you allow" because you're the only one who can do something to change it. I know the fear of dealing with this once and for all can overwhelm you but we've got to at least attempt to confront the situation. Ask yourself, what's the worse thing that can happen if you did were to end things with him? If you're paying all the bills anyway, really-what's the worse thing that can happen? Okay here they come...all the lies we listen to-who else will accept my weight, my kids, my this my that? You know all the the thoughts that flood our minds when we're trying to make a positive change, they're there just to keep us where we don't belong. If we would be just honest with ourselves it would make a world of difference. I hear people say women must not love themselves when they're in these type of relationships but I beg to differ; I know that they love themselves to some degree there's just some kind of malfunction somewhere. Let me suggest that you get out of the relationship mentally first, start imagining how it could be if he wasn't living with you and you had the opportunity to meet someone who was willing to pay all the bills or even half. Didn't that make you feel better just thinking about it? Even if you are able to provide for yourself financially, you should not want this type of man that I've been speaking of, men like this will never be men if women like this keeps enabling them. DNA is a powerful thing and these type of men are reproducing their kind everyday, we need to save them from themselves! Look around-I'm not saying all, but the men who are like this who have grown sons do you see a pattern? Sometimes the apple really doesn't fall far from the tree. Would you want your son growing up and becoming one of these so called men? Well that's exactly what could happen, how are our sons supposed to know how to treat a woman if this is the example that they're getting? There's all kinds help available, and when we want it bad enough we will find it, the choice is ours.